Going to add my personal opinion to the 'Why do people always hate on the female lead?'
I kind of rejoice Irmar's opinion when we curse the FL for being dumb or turn into a victim or she acts against nature laws in some situations with her love interest XD
I think there's a mix between who we are and between what is shown on screen to explain these fierce reactions:
1/ Age (and generations)
- More you grow, less you're tolerant or patient toward stupidity (from what I could see from people around me). So less you're forgiving to stupidity coming from a lambda character.
In dramas, you're bound to see idiocy = one of the ingredients in some dramas (this is what I started to believe).
From a stupid mistake, it triggers emotions in viewers and creates some unusual situations for instance, where you'll judge there's someone who is right and someone who is wrong. The bad one and the good one.
In general, more you hate one character, more you will root for the antipode or the person who goes against her or the one who is trying to reason her or in the love triangle, the other female. Similarly, more you love one part in a love triangle, more you'll hate the other part.
With age, come the generations of viewers.
- People have more easily a bad mouth than before. Not only youngsters. More people get to know Kdramas including youngsters thanks to Netflix for ex (you buy to watch US series, but then in the catalogue you discover Asian series).
- We have a larger population of all ages.
- We express more easily our emotions, hate or love, with internet and when we write. The lock that you'd have in real life when you talk (sense of propriety) could disappear once you're becoming someone else on the internet. You can say what you want without having to care who is going to read you. Just express, just tell, criticize all you want, it's a freedom that you don't have in real life and the actor will never get back at you for saying that...
2/ Worshipping and shipping
- I think among the haters, they are die-hard fans of some actors.
So I guess they don't like that the FL is not worthy of him XD
Now each one has her own ideal of the woman or the woman who should convene to the actor in question.
- You pick among females in the drama, the one where you could portray the love relationship better or the best love and once you pick your side, you find excuses to convince yourself that the other side is not good enough no matter what she does or everything she does is bad xD
- Who says that worshipping an Oppa can't make fans blind to Oppa's flaws? He always deserves better XD
In Korea, beauty has been really in vogue and the criteria of beauty in Korea is showing on Kdramas. It could be that among viewers, some take really into heart the appearance of the heroin, like people in Korea who really take care of looks. When you have watched a lot, your eyes can kind of become used to see some standards of beauty. The typical Korean beauty, so if you see an actress who doesn't fit in these criteria... you unconsciously compare to other Kdramas actresses that you've watched before: "She's not so beautiful... (compared to... what you could have seen already).
- Is the FL's look essential for you or the Oppa has to be with someone you find beautiful?
4/ Values of women, place and role
- More you grow, more you understand that women and men are not equal (I'm not into feminism, but if you watch some Kdramas or Cdramas, you could convert to it).
I don't see the same look toward women in Korean society through Kdramas compared to the one in my society.
Yup, some differences between how women are perceived are treated in my society.
Sometimes, I can understand some critics because I see that the one who wrote the comment shares the same values. The woman's role in society, the woman in a relationship, the woman in the family, etc.
I don't always like how women are portrayed in dramas, for me, it's like brainwashing young girls, so I can't watch some types of Kdramas because of how women are portrayed or how love is portrayed.
5/ Cultural differences?
I've mostly seen cursing words in English (b* etc.)
If I look into French comments, I think I've never seen cursing words, the equivalent or similar words (or maybe I haven't watched the dramas where it happened and I don't know for other languages).
I don't really know if it's more common for American ppl to curse easily while watching dramas or... XD
I don't curse while watching a drama.
7/ Recurrent FL or stories
More you watch kdramas, more you're grown accustomed to see typical situations that happen in kdramas, same with types of characters and FL.
There's an actress I feel like, no matter what she plays, it's like I'm seeing the same character in every drama she plays.
It's not hating the FL, more on how the character is portrayed by the actress.
And then you have the scriptwriter (I agree with Irmar's post here). How the FL is portrayed by the scriptwriter?
After seeing the same type of character reincarnating in many dramas, you just want that someone finds an innovative idea.
Not only in leads but in the story itself, have you ever felt that by watching a few dramas, you've watched a handful of them?
6/ Taste (always)
What kind of FC do you like? Everyone will have a different opinion XD
More you grow, more you know yourself better
And so your tastes and your dislikes.
Compared to before, I've felt like that my character is more established than when I was younger and watching dramas.
Like in love relationships, you begin to flirt, date, break up, hook up with someone else and it continues...
And then comes a time when you know better what you want, who will fit you, what kind of relationship you want. You become more assertive and you're more thinking at the long-term scale (maybe it's hormones shift or who knows, another life crisis?)
Same with tastes in movies, dramas, series (in my case).
I know better what I want and what I'd like to watch, what kind of story would interest me, what kind of FL I'd like to watch and the ones that I'd dislike and I'm not afraid to say that I didn't like a certain type of FL. Is it a bad thing that I dislike a certain type of FL or dramas?
Before, I didn't see it as losing time, watching an overbearing FL or FL who will be the cause of some frustration for a few 20 hours, but now I see it as losing time. Same with love, why spending time to date when you know already that it's not going to last or you both don't fit?
Maybe, I've become more like a consumer, I have to take pleasure instantly when I consume. I don't want to wait, I don't want that the leads don't fit what I'm expecting from the very first ep, etc. Or should I say pickier?
7/ The FL I'd like to watch has grown with me.
Some romance dramas I'd like to watch a long time before, I would have a different opinion today.
The FL I liked before are not the same FL I like now.
When I was younger, I'd have loved the romance Kdramas that are currently shown (it's a pity) because I have a certain ideal of love and fantasies. But now that I don't have the same fantasies or the way I love is not the same way I loved or how to say it, I don't see love or relationships the same way. Some experiences change you a lot, even in your tastes.
A writer who has experienced a certain love and can fully express it on a drama to the point I can relate or think that it could be real or happen in real life, I think there I'd be interested to watch, because it's really hard to depict a love relationship or the feeling of love, a good part of it is immaterial, thoughts, something inside that is not always shown through eyes. It's easier for me to identify to FL in books or chicklit than in dramas, because in books, I know exactly what the FL thinks (and her thoughts can balance some stupid acts she did). In dramas, I might be more severe with the FL because I only have the FL actions to base my opinion on XD