I don't know if it's okay or correct to say that there could be the suicide due to depression (attempt to cut oneself many times, having recurrent thoughts of suicide, etc. => the negative state of mind you're talking about) and the other suicide (could be war victims or another reason). I don't want to categorize, but to distinguish that there's a difference in general causes and so the way that we can soothe or help these humans might differ in some aspects.
YouTube recommendations yesterday: "Sad forever" by Lauv
He talks about his suicide attempt in this song. His negative state of mind.
It's just really sad when you see people like that, you just want to hug them and tell them "Love yourself. Take care of yourself and cherish your life."
Like the "Everything is going to be all right." Like you want to believe in it for them.
The subtitles you can see while listening to the song:
“I wrote sad forever at a time when I was extremely low. I was dealing with depression and OCD but hadn’t really recognized or gotten the help I needed. While I was hesitant at first, asking for help was an important first step. Mental illness is something that is often times not apparent to the outside world. It’s an ongoing journey with ups and downs and finding stability is a process that I’m still heavily working on. This song was written in a dark place but by donating all proceeds to mental health organizations I can only hope it helps others take their first step to ask for help too.”
I think the first step is realizing it, then once you realize it, either to talk about it or the attitude would be to hide it or to reject it.
Is wanting to talk about it a way to ask for help? Or already sharing it to someone and be listened to already a kind of help? Releasing what is heavy inside. Talking or creating art (painting, writing, dancing,...).
Looking for help
Reading your own experience and the experience of your brother through your words, we can see that you really care about your brother. If something like this happens, I hope people would be understanding and caring.
It may also show that he was finally ready to talk about it to you?
And your attitude might be the key point too to make them talk about it, reassuring them and be a real support by just listening to him?
I think it's also the attitude of the listener that can help a lot.
To make us talk because if we don't talk about it, it could be because of fear for example (fear of what would others think about it, what they think about me, job prospects, being rejected by some people we care for or just hurt people around you).
I always find it more difficult to talk about some serious things to family or close friends than strangers. Not because of shame, but because I don't want to make them worry or make things harder or make them hurt. So that's why some people keep it for themselves.
So I find it really great that he could open up with you, his sister.
Thanks for these posts and these songs! Coldplay