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#1

I don’t know if anyone would be interested in this one, but this senior person(me) gets depressed over the holidays, oh I do try NOT to but theres that. I think this may be a bit long, but it was quite interesting. maybe someone can do a shorter version

DEPRESSION TIPS:

1.Shower. Not a bath, a shower. Use water as hot or cold as you like. You don’t even need to wash. Just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. Sit on the floor if you gotta.

2.Moisturize everything. Use whatever lotion you like. Unscented? Poundland lotion? Fancy 48 hour lotion that makes you smell like a field of wildflowers? Use whatever you want, and use it all over your entire dermis.

3.Put on clean, comfortable clothes.

4.Put on your favorite underwear. Cute black lacy panties? Those ridiculous boxers you bought last christmas with pink love hearts on the butt? Put them on.

5.Drink cold water. Use ice. If you want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.

6.Clean something. Doesn’t have to be anything big. Organize one drawer of a desk. Wash five dirty dishes. Do a load of laundry. Scrub the bathroom sink. (I need to do this one)

7Blast music. Listen to something upbeat and dancey and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. Sing to it, dance to it, even if you suck at both.(I need to do this one!!) those k pop ones y’all like!!!

8Make food. Don’t just grab a Kit Kat bar to munch. Take the time and make food. Even if it’s beans on toast. Add something special to it, like a soft boiled egg or some veggies. Prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something.

9 Make something. Write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. Even if you don’t think you’re good at it. Create.(well crochet , genealogy, bake cupcakes, fits the bill)

  1. Go outside. Take a walk. Sit in the grass. Look at the clouds. Smell flowers. Put your hands in the dirt and feel the soil against your skin. walking

11.Call someone. Call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. Talk to a stranger on the street. Have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. If you can’t bring yourself to call, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. Even if you don’t say much, listen to them. It helps. (learn to listen is a good one)

12.Cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them. Take pictures of them. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out, anything.

May seem small or silly to some, but this list keeps people alive.

*** At your absolute best you won’t be good enough for the wrong people. But at your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right ones. Remember that. Keep holding on.

*** In case nobody has told you today I love you and you are worth your weight and then some in gold, so be kind to yourself and most of all keep pushing on!!!

Find something to be grateful for! well being alive is a good one, “pay it forward, is another one”

May I please get 2 friends or family members to copy and re-post? I am trying to demonstrate that someone is always listening.

#SuicideAwareness

#HaveARealConversation

Just two. Any two.

Say done.

and everyone thanks for listening!!!


#2

I suggest you add see a professional like a psychologist that can prescribe some medicine great for depression. Seasonal depression is normal but it won’t hurt to take some medicine for a while, and stop them gradually when you are over that ‘‘blue’’ period. Medicines are not addictive unless we don’t take control.


#3

you may be right, but the one thing is to associate with people, talk to and with people, get involved with something, per my list above, and yes an excuse of sorts, the broken arm didn’t help matters either.

anyway I can go on and on, but the one thing I would love is a friend someone that would be a friend, someone to talk to, someone that would do things together, remember you want a friend, be one…I have sought professional help a few years ago, and nothing came about it. so I am going to do the crocheting and genealogy, go for a walk meet someone and just say hi.


#4

I’m glad you are on your way to facing your depression during the holidays, since is a common thing to get depressed in our days now, and especially with all the horrible things that happened this past almost 2 years (imo) it’s a miracle we still are sane of mind.

Just don’t hang out with friends that are too pessimistic. Make sure to surround yourself with cheerful, and hyper friends bc they can really make the difference.


#5

This happens to a lot of people!!!

Someone told me yesterday something she learned at a Woman’s Small Business Seminar!

Every Morning Write Down Three Things You Are Grateful For
Also Three Things YOU LIKE About Yourself (this is hard and cannot be repeated you have to think of new things!!!) Do this for several weeks to uplift your mood!


inspire more


#6

@frustratedwriter

https://www.proteincakery.com/maple-almond-bear-hug-protein-cookies/

afbeelding


#7

hows that??

I just seen this, now a good reminder, huh?


#8

that sounds very interesting!


#9

1. Finances.

Not enough money or the fear of not having enough to buy gifts leads to sadness and guilt. The stress of financial hardship during this economic downturn is often compounded by shame. When you can’t afford to celebrate is can feel devastating.

2. Stress.

The stress of shopping and planning family dinners when you’re already overworked and tired.

3. Loneliness.

A whopping 43 percent of Americans are single, and 27 percent of Americans live alone. When others are with their families, it can be very painful for those who are alone. Seventeen percent of singles are over 65, when health, age, and mobility can make it more difficult to enjoy yourself.

4. Grief.

Missing a deceased loved one who won’t be joining you. Seniors have more reasons to grieve.

5. Estrangement.

When you’re not speaking to a relative, family get-togethers can usher in feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, or inner conflict about whether to communicate.

6. Divorce.

If you’re newly divorced, the holidays may remind you of happier times and accentuate your grief. It’s especially difficult for adult children of divorce who have to balance seeing two sets of parents. The stress is multiplied for married children who have three or even four sets of parents to visit.

7. Pleasing.

Trying to please all of your relatives – deciding what to get, whom to see, and what to do – can make you feel guilty and not enough, which leads to holiday stress and depression.

8. SAD.

Many people experience the blues during gloomy weather due to decreased sunlight, called Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

Much of the planning, shopping, and cooking is done by women, so they carry the greater burden in preparing for family gatherings.

Women are at greater risk for depression than men. They’re twice as likely to experience depression. After heart disease, depression is the most debilitating illness for women, while it’s tenth for men. To read more on this,


#10
  1. Make plans in advance , so you know how and with whom your holidays will be spent. Uncertainty and putting off decision-making add enormous stress.

  2. Shop early and allow time to wrap and mail packages to avoid the shopping crunch.

  3. Ask for help from your family and children. Women tend to think they have to do everything when a team effort can be more fun.

  4. Shame prevents people from being open about gift-giving when they can’t afford it. Instead of struggling to buy a gift, let your loved ones know how much you care and would like to, but can’t afford it. That intimate moment will relieve your stress and nourish you both.

  5. Don’t allow perfectionism to wear you down. Remember it’s being together and goodwill that matters.

  6. Make time to rest and rejuvenate even amidst the pressure of getting things done. This will give you more energy.

  7. Spend time alone to reflect and grieve, if necessary. Pushing down feelings leads to depression. Let yourself feel. Then do something nice for yourself and socialize.

  8. Don’t isolate. Reach out to others who also may be lonely. If you don’t have someone to be with, volunteer to help those in need. It can be very uplifting and gratifying.

  9. Research has shown that staying warm improves mood while being cold can make you feel lonely. Treat yourself to a warm bath and a cup of hot tea.

The signs of depression are feelings of sadness, worthlessness, and/or guilt, crying, loss of interest in usual activities, fatigue, difficulty concentrating, irritability, social withdrawal, and changes in sleep, weight, or appetite .

If these symptoms are severe or continue for a few weeks, more than the holidays may be the cause. Seek professional help.


#11

I think this covers it in a nutshell and a lot of these is me. so I have to work on “me” to straightem me out!


#12

We LOVE you!!! You can always spend time talking to me!!!

I highly recommend therapy for a myriad of reasons! I totally believe in it if you find someone good!


Tenor


#13

the person I had years ago was fantastic, maybe I will do that. and as for you, I kn ow I can talk to you!!.

and my fuzzy!! thank you, I needed that.


#14

Always Hug Heart to Heart!!! Your Heart to my Heart!!! Better for you! :heart:


#15

some may not believe that, But I do!! some just don’t realize how much a good hug feels!!


#16

hey! I got a badge for this!!


#17

What did you GET???


#18

says “nice topic”

just read your link, that was awesome, thank you!


#19

Not having high expectations - that is a hard one!!! I am a crazy Christmas decorator and I usually have two trees - I have been doing Sock Exchanges for the last 5 years - everyone loves to do it! Friends are so fun to have around if you don’t stress about having them over!


#20

This is one of my favorite meditations! I actually love the Mindful Movement!