The worst part of the aftermath of Jonghyun's death is all those people who come out of the woodwork to promote their personal agenda: using Jonghyun's death as bait ("opportunity") to talk about depression & the need to make mental health accessible or not stigmatized & blah blah. or how bullying & hate words can kill (um, what? This man's death had to do with antis & internet bulling - like, what?) And perhaps the most annoying of all: all the depressed kids who project themselves and talk on Jonghyun's behalf speculating (that's right, none of you actually know why) why the man killed himself. Look, you may have depression but it doesn't mean Jonghyun had the same experience as you. People kill themselves for many different reasons. Having depression does not make you an expert on depression or other people. Why do people keep dragging down Jonghyun's family & friends saying thy were not supportive enough, or didn't pay attention to signs & etc. FFS stop projecting yourself! His family & friends were supportive as evident when they told him to seek professional help. People can be awfully stubborn to the point that noting can change their mind. So it is awfully unfair to blame the suicide on the family & friends. (at the end of the day it was his choice ) We don't know Jonghyun personally- all we can do is speculate. But is gossip like this necessary? No different from scandals on tabloids. Leave the poor man alone and let him rest in peace.I doubt he wanted to become a spectacle after his death. Let's remember Jonghyun by positive words & memories & let's not pry into his personal private life.
(.p.s. I love how everyone mentions stigma on mental health but no one mentioned the culture & lifestyle of an idol which also contributes to idols' unhappiness; whether it's crazy stalker fans that breathe down your neck or the grueling long hours that are miserable (slavery) and give no time for sleep & rest let alone personal downtime & hobbies? (I know they get days off once promotions are over, but sometimes idols have comebacks back to back with little to no time for proper rest) Furthermore they have poor health supervision; many are forced or allowed to perform injured or sick & even when severely exhausted. And what about being unable to date or pursue a relationship - which we all start seeking in adulthood. Last but not least: the diets that malnourish & don't provide enough energy. I think even the most emotionally stable will be effected by such poor lifestyle and will eventually crack. This lifestyle is not sustainable because idols are not robots. Change the system & the culture. Idols are not the only ones stressed & depressed due to long hours & overworking : from high school kids to an average Joe working his office job - everyone is exhausted & under high pressure to succeed due to the highly competitive nature of Korean economy/job market. Instead of assigning shrinks & pills to relieve stress, why not shorten working hours & provide better working environments (part of which might also be increasing wages). While mental health accessibility is important, I believe it should be addressed after the issue of long working/schooling hours)